Beauty in Breakups : The Positive Side of Ending a Relationship
A breakup can come with a ton of emotions, most of them gut wrenching, tear producing, “How will I survive this?” kind of pain. In the long run, however, a breakup can also be a beautiful thing for both parties. Splitting is an opportu- nity to reassess your relationship goals and redirect your life. This separation can be a do-over, something we get very few chances to do in life. It’s a chance to venture out of your comfort zone and rearrange the way you live love.
Looking at Balance
Breakups are beautiful and necessary. It is called a “breakup” because it is broken and one (or both) of you finally had the gumption to end it. I know, I know. He
(or she) told you they loved you, you met the family, the sex was mind-blowing, you talked about a future together. That trip you took together to Australia was magical, and you even shared a dog named “Fluffy.” And now, it’s over. Believe it or not, that is great news. For love to be dynamic, it has to be mutual. Your partner needs to adore you just as much, if not more, than you adore them. A lopsided love will not last for the long haul.
Breakups are beautiful, refreshing, and oh-so-empowering. I mean, let’s face it: Something was not working in your relationship that caused it to end. As bummed out and pain-stricken as you may be, you can and will survive your breakup. In fact, your breakup is actually a very exciting time in your life. Now is the time to rein- vent yourself. Now is the time to grab your life by the nap of the neck and shake things up. The new you will emerge as a positive, desirable, self-assured single that is about to start an exciting journey to find the next love of your life. A good breakup will propel you forward in life. A breakup, if done correctly, will rattle you to make some better choices that will result in better love. You’ll realize, in no time at all, you’ll be looking back at your past relationship and cringe at the fact you stayed in it for so long. Chances are you were both equally smitten with each other once upon a time. However, relationships evolve and quite often the evolution will create a divide in the dynamic you once shared as a couple. In a healthy and committed relationship, neither party dumps the other when they feel someone better has come along.
Fighting Through the Pain
Although breakups can be beautiful, we can’t minimize the pain of a breakup. Splitting up from someone you once loved, or still do love, hurts like hell. A breakup can feel like your heart has been chewed up and ripped out. Oh, and that awful pain in the pit of your stomach is nothing short of debilitating. Unfortunately, you must go through the pain to get over the pain. But with time, you will recover. You will move on and you will look back and realize what you did have together really was not all that strong or commit- ted. For a breakup to happen, something was broken. Devoted couples do not break up.
One-sided love is really no love at all. A breakup is the perfect time to get motivated about your future and the love that lies ahead. Every relationship that does not work out will put you one step closer to the relationship you were meant to be in. A good break- up will breathe life into your deflated, stalled and broken love life.
Having the Right Attitude
Your breakup attitude is crucial when it comes to your future. Consider your breakup as a new blank canvas of your life and you get to paint your new future. The possibilities are endless! Redirect your energy to life-changing strategies. Start a new hobby. Go on Match. com and find the real love of your life. Do something for YOU. Change something. Learn something new, take a class, start running, take up yoga, turn you pain into productive pain. You will thank your ex later.